Consider the following areas of your life.
Are there any areas that you are not completely happy with, that you have not chosen to make changes yet?
Career/Business,
Health and Fitness,
Personal Relationships,
Family,
Financial,
Possessions,
Personal Development and
Spirituality
Now, ask yourself the following questions;
Am I..
fed up enough?
angry enough?
hurt enough?
guilty enough?
in pain enough?
sad enough?
scared enough?
bored enough?
weak enough?
ill enough?
to want to make a change in my life, right now?
If the answer is yes, and you are not taking any action then read on and let's look at some reasons WHY?
1. You Have Decided That the Situation is Not Bad Enough Yet
Sometimes people choose not to move on because they feel that the situation they are in is not that bad.
You might think, things could be worse, or could they? Why should they?
Why choose to live a life that is anything less than great?
YOU have the unlimited POTENTIAL and right to be happy and FULFILLED in all areas of your life.
When people decide that they have truly had enough, they use this energy to take ACTION. To move from where they are, knowing that is not where they need to be. Use this energy to propel you forward, toward what you want.
GET FED UP ENOUGH TO WANT TO MAKE CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE, NO MATTER HOW SMALL.
2. You Want To Change, But Don't Know How To
"It's easy for you", some people say to me, "because you know what to do and you always have". if only they knew!
WANTING to change is the start, however, some people get put off because they BELIEVE, they don't know how to go about making changes in the right way.
The secret is THERE IS NO RIGHT WAY. What is the right way for you? What works for you? and I guarantee that it may be something completely different from your next-door neighbour. WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE or FEAR?
Some people put off moving forward because they want to avoid what they see as further failure or rejection.
Trust me! If your back is up against the wall already - there is not much further you can go. THE KEY is that the journey has to start in your mind. You have to start BELIEVING in yourself, that you CAN, start small.
FIND A WAY!! FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY
3. You Think You Do Not Have Any Control Over the Way Things Are in Your Life
Many people BELIEVE (and it is just a belief) that things just happen TO them, and that they have no control over things in their lives as adults. You may say to yourself.. "I'm unlucky", "My life is a mess", "I'll never be happy", "Things always go wrong for me"' That’s just the way things are", "I’m cursed" etc. I believe that there are two perspectives that we can take as adults, regarding our lives and these are.
YOU ARE THE CAUSE or ARE YOU THE EFFECT?
The most empowering and inspirational perspective is BEING THE CAUSE. When we see ourselves as the CAUSE, we take responsibility for the things and situations (or the lack of) that we create in our lives. When you truly live by this perspective you are able to identify the exact thoughts, words and actions that create your life today, and the next day, etc. What have you unconsciously created in your life today? The next step is finding out for what purpose have you chosen to create these things.
BEING THE EFFECT, on the other hand, completely disempowers you, as you believe that things are done to you. This perspective is nothing to do with blaming ourselves, as a lot of our BELIEFS and DECISIONS are made in the past and continue to affect us UNCONSCIOUSLY. When someone sees themself as BEING EFFECTED, they relinquish all responsibility and control.
WHICH PERSPECTIVE DO YOU TAKE AT THE MOMENT?
ARE YOU THE CAUSE OR THE EFFECT?
4. You Have Given Up, Believing That’s the Way Things Will Always Be
Have you given up? Is giving up an option? Most people have given up without even realising they have.
You have already given up if you are resigned to living an unhappy or unfulfilled life.
We all have LIMITING BELIEFS about things in our lives, other people and the way the world works.
For example, I'm not pretty enough, slim enough, tall enough, good enough, knowledgeable enough, worth enough, skilful enough, etc.
WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS DO YOU HAVE?
Take some time to write out a list of things. These beliefs shape our everyday reality, and if you believe that things will always be the way they are then, you will attract situations, people and things to yourself to confirm this belief. Also, you remain on the EFFECT side of the equation.
People change their beliefs every day. Just imagine, centuries ago people thought that the world was flat and that if you set off on a journey, you would fall off the end. We all know now, through scientific advancement and theory that the world is actually round, and that if you set off from a particular point and keep going you will end up in the same place.
The key here is to do some serious soul searching, be honest with yourself, there's no one here but you (and me ha! ha!), ask your unconscious mind to give you the answers, and ask yourself.
WHAT LIMITING BELIEFS DO I HAVE AND WHERE DID THESE BELIEFS COME FROM?
5. You Are Scared of Confronting Your Past So That You Can Move on
I use to be afraid of looking back into my past, as I knew there were things there that scared me. I knew that if I went far back enough, I would stumble on something that would bring up those memories and fears that use to haunt me in my sleep. I was scared and ashamed because I had been a victim (or saw myself as a victim) and was weak enough to let certain things happen that were out of my control.
One thing that I know now, in my many years of soul searching is that
THE PAST CAN DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE IF YOU DO NOT ACKNOWLEDGE IT and RELEASE WHAT NO LONGER SERVES YOU.
Once you have acknowledged and worked through SIGNIFICANT EMOTIONAL EVENTS in your past..
THE PAST NO LONGER HAS TO DETERMINE YOUR FUTURE.
Written By Dionne Jude 2006
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